Three Tips to Get the Most Out of Screen Time for Kids

We recently had a lively conversation with Erin Walsh of Spark & Stitch Institute on the topic of balancing screen time during the pandemic. If you missed the event, Erin has created her top three tips for how parents can get the most out of their kids’ screen time.


Guest blog by Erin Walsh, Spark & Stitch Institute

I’ve spent my career translating the research on media’s impact on child health and development. Right now, my inbox is full of questions from parents and caregivers whose attempts to create digital balance need a COVID reality check. This pandemic is decidedly not the time to add screen time guilt to your long list of stressors. Instead, focusing on key takeaways from scientific research can help guide our screen time choices and prioritize the relationships and experiences our kids need for healthy development. Here are three places to start:

  1. Use screen time as a relationship-building exercise.

For young children especially, learning is intensely social. Study after study shows that engaging with technology alongside your child helps them get the most out of it.

However, the reality is that screen time often provides a window of opportunity to make dinner, take a break, get ready for a second work shift or get your other child down for a nap. So, if sitting down next to your child isn’t possible, find ways to bring digital experiences back into the context of your relationship at other times.

For example:

  • Ask your child questions about the show they watched. Ask them to describe the characters and story and relate it to offline observations and experiences.
  • Read books related to the themes of their favorite shows and talk about how they are similar and different.
  • Use Legos, animals or figurines to encourage play that builds on and expands the storylines in their favorite shows or games.
  • Encourage your child to use media as a tool for connecting with siblings, grandparents or friends.
  1. Find technology that promotes playful learning.

While we tend to marvel at children who can recite their numbers and letters, the real work of the early years is in practicing emotional regulation, creative problem solving, persistence, empathy and other skills that fall under the umbrella of executive function. Children learn these skills in the context of warm, caring relationships and by doing what they love best: playing.

Unfortunately, too many apps take a “drill and practice” approach to learning, focusing on very basic skills like naming letters, sounds and words. While knowing numbers and letters is important, it doesn’t provide the rich literacy-building play that children could be engaged in when they create signs for the door of their castle or sing songs and learn new words.

Resist the urge to download apps that operate only under what Warren Buckleitner, founding editor of “The Children’s Technology Review,” calls “smother mode.” For example, rigid instructions and constant rewards for performing prescribed tasks. Instead, try to find apps and games that honor the spirit of free play.

Do your child’s apps and games:

  • Encourage imagination, creativity and open-ended exploration?
  • Encourage perspective taking or creative problem solving?
  • Have an appropriate storyline that children can expand on offline?
  1. Set boundaries where they matter most.

Make sure that technology time is used in addition to rather than as a replacement for offline connection and play. Setting predictable boundaries helps reduce power struggles and helps you prioritize setting limits where they matter most to your child’s development.


  • Content: Choose age-appropriate media. Use PBSKids for age-appropriate shows and games. Here is a list of great sites that help you find creative apps for your kids.
  • Timing: Pay attention to the timing of tech use. For example, avoid media before or during bedtime and reduce background media during play.
  • Routine: Create predictable screen-free spaces to reduce constant negotiation. You could start by making sure that meals, bedtime and car rides are all screen free since these are times for conversation and connection.

If you feel like your child is getting more screen time now than they should, you’re not alone. But by going easy on yourself and following the tips above, you can relax knowing that you are making positive choices for your child’s development.


Erin Walsh is co-founder of Spark & Stitch Institute, an organization committed to sparking greater understanding of why kids need courage and connection to thrive and how to foster it in the digital age. For nearly 20 years, she has worked to bring scientific research and relatable tips to families and educators across the country.

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